Friday, June 22, 2012

Be careful little eyes....


This blog has been on the editing floor for about two weeks. I have wrestled with it, deleted it, re-wrote it, prayed about it and here is the final, finished product.
Before reading this, please know that my heart’s intentions in writing it are not to condemn, judge or preach.

Unless you have been living under a rock buried underground and covered by cement, you have heard about Magic Mike and 50 Shades of Grey. The porno epidemic has been a raging problem for individuals and relationships for years. But now, at the aid of social media and Television, it is almost unavoidable even for those detached from all of the social media plug-ins. Shielding our eyes, ears and hearts has become even more difficult than before.

I bet Satan is leaping for joy this very minute at how easy his job has become. He gets paid off our sin and we are making him very rich. He is still in the business of destroying people and relationships, corrupting our children and killing our potential to live and lead a pure life.
I’m not implying that those who choose to read 50 Shades of Grey or go to the Magic Mike movie can’t live a pure life. The abundant supply of grace God gives us proves that we can. But I believe seeds are planted in our hearts and mind daily whether we intentionally put them there or we are too preoccupied to shield ourselves from them. We have to be diligent in protecting what we allow into our lives.

I didn’t grow up pure or make decisions based on my faith. I used my physique and wits to build all of my relationships. I had it and I flaunted it. I wasn’t selective when it came to choosing boyfriends or friends for that matter. Whoever gave me the most attention “won” but ultimately I was the one losing. With every choice I made I was losing myself and the purity I was born with. I continued to make decisions that made ME feel good in that moment. It was all surface level satisfaction because deep down I degraded myself and put a value on my worth that was so cheap anyone could afford me. Years of bad choices and lack of self worth by the age of 18 I decided to move out with my boyfriend. At 19ish I didn’t like the commitment school required so I dropped a few classes with the best of intentions to make them up. By 21 I was unmarried and pregnant and college was dead last on my TO DO list. From 21-24 we struggled in multiple ways; financially, emotionally and spiritually.  By 24 I was pregnant again. At 25 my marriage was falling apart. By age 26 I was going through a divorce and officially a single mom. I never finished college. I just turned 28 on Tuesday.

My choices back then paved the way for my twenties and I’m knocking on 30’s door! Your twenties are when you’re supposed to grow, live and have fun. I wasted it because I didn’t recognize or know my worth. I didn’t know God. I didn’t have to contend with 50 Shades of Grey, Magic Mike, Jersey Shore, Teen Mom, 16 and Pregnant or any other trash TV like that when I was growing up. So imagine the battle our youth faces now. There is more and more we have to protect ourselves from and truthfully, I am terrified for my own children.  Aside from locking them in a padded room with no TV or radio, how do we guard our children from sexual an immoral corruption?

As a youth leader at church, I get front row seats to the teenagers and their daily struggles. Has anyone told them the value of their virginity? Has anyone explained the long term effects of devaluing themselves? Has anyone explained that their physical temptations are normal but how to tame those desires and steward their sexuality appropriately? In today’s world modesty is lame and sexuality is popular. A quick mobile upload and a few tags later your worth is public domain for your 500 friends to see. We post in our News Feed pictures and words that describe our worth to the world. Intentional or not. We gage our importance on how many ‘likes’ we get or how many comments our posts have; All the while ignoring God’s ‘likes’ and comments for our life ‘posts’. 

Sadly the world captivates our attention to things that lead us straight into sinful destruction. We are exposed to movies, books, websites and people multiple times a day. It’s inevitable that things will sneak into our minds and heart. Those unintentional seeds we allow to be planted are the most dangerous kind.

I’m saddened and burdened by the way the world defines love. Love has been corrupted into something that only meets a physical need. We are driven by our heart’s desire. A friend once told me to be careful because the heart just loves to love. That explained a lot of my past and broken relationships. I allowed my heart to love anything and anyone regardless if they were “profitable” to my life.

1 Corinthians 6:12-13 (Jackee paraphrased): Under the grace of salvation provided to those who place their faith in Jesus as the one true way to God, all things are permissible but not all things are profitable. All things are permissible: under grace all is covered by the blood of Jesus that allows a person to be seen without sin in the eyes of God. Not all things are profitable: there are actions which will have natural, emotional and/or spiritual consequences, some which will shape a heart in hidden ways.

In closing this really long entry, I challenge all readers to be careful what we allow into our hearts. There’s a children’s song that we should all apply to our lives:

O Be Careful, Little Eyes
O be careful little eyes what you see
O be careful little eyes what you see
There's a Father up above
And He's looking down in love
So, be careful little eyes what you see

O be careful little ears what you hear
O be careful little ears what you hear
There's a Father up above
And He's looking down in love
So, be careful little ears what you hear

O be careful little hands what you do
O be careful little hands what you do
There's a Father up above
And He's looking down in love
So, be careful little hands what you do

O be careful little feet where you go
O be careful little feet where you go
There's a Father up above
And He's looking down in love
So, be careful little feet where you go

O be careful little mouth what you say
O be careful little mouth what you say
There's a Father up above
And He's looking down in love
So, be careful little mouth what you say

Thanks for reading!!!